The Happiness Explorer

How to…fully embrace change - By Lydia Kimmerling

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I believe that you are here for a reason, guided by your intuition, seeking more from life. Your inner voice has been whispering to you, urging you to listen because there is something greater in store for you. And guess what? I agree! Today, join me on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment as we explore the incredible power of embracing change.

Change can be intimidating, even paralysing. We often resist it, settling for less than what we desire. But let me tell you, change is where the magic happens! As a Master Life Coach, I've seen individuals tap into their inner strength and thrive in the face of change. Now, I want to guide you towards unlocking your true potential and experiencing a life beyond your wildest dreams.

Let's start by exploring standards. We all have personal standards, many of which are unconscious. Remember, there is no right or wrong standard. It only becomes wrong when you desire something different but refuse to change anything. Imagine the characters from the tv show ‘Friends’ living together. Monica may have high standards for cleanliness, while Joey might be more relaxed. Neither is right or wrong; it's a matter of personal choice. However, if Joey desired a more organised environment, he would need to raise his standards. Similarly, if Monica wanted a laid-back attitude, she would need to let go of perfectionism. Recognise what needs to change to align with your desired life.

To identify where your standards need adjustment, gain clarity on how you want your life to transform. For instance, when I wanted to launch my coaching business, I reduced alcohol consumption to avoid wasting time on recovery. I raised my standard to feel good as often as possible, saying no to excessive drinking and yes to showing up in my business.

Your standard determines what you say ‘yes’ to, while boundaries define what you say ‘no’ to. In this column, we'll focus on standards because I want you to grasp this concept. Envision what you want to say ‘yes’ to in life because that's exciting! Reflect on questions like: How do you want your life to look? What are you accepting that falls short of your desires?

Through coaching, I've found that self-worth holds us back. We accept low standards because we believe we are unworthy of more. I once encountered a man neglected and unwell, sleeping beside an overflowing bin. It touched my heart, thinking about the circumstances that led him to such a low standard. As babies, we are born with full self-worth tanks. Life's experiences make us believe we are unworthy or not good enough.

Raising your standards sends a powerful message to the universe, declaring, "I am worth it!" With each decision, you feel more complete, connected, alive. Who wouldn't want to feel more alive? So, grab your metaphorical wand and envision where you want to breathe magic into your life. The power to make a change lies within you. Don't wait for someone else's magic to convince you. You have the ability to make your life better. Decide you are worth it and say ‘yes’ to your dreams.

If you feel like there’s more out there for you, say hi to Lydia Kimmerling aka The Happiness Explorer on Instagram @lydiakimmerling